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Hey Boos!
Last week was a crazy week of catch-up after being sick. Life comes at you fast… One day you’re feeling great & you blink and you’re not! My ankle just randomly started hurting the other day, I didn’t even do anything. But yea… things are weird!
(Sha la la la)
“Setting My Own Pace”
People have always preached about “staying in your lane”, “it’s your journey”! I realized that nothing up until about 23 is your own lane. School kind of sets your pace for a good chunk of your life then around 23 and after is just unlearning that whole BS so you can build your own lane/trajectory.
Adulting is like a big old timer! Giving ourselves the time to figure out life is the key though. You think you get out of school & be like okay I got life figured out. We all know it’s never like that though then you have people continuing to try to push you through life. What’s next, what’s next…
You have so many different stages of life but what time do we really give ourselves to process that stage before we are rushing to move to the next thing? Being on the end of the grieving stage of a failed talking situation, I’m like okay I cried…moving on! Girl I’m in therapy like oh so I’ve been bored & she’s like yea you’re still adjusting to be back alone with your thoughts. Dang, I thought I bounced back, like can we wrap this up…
One lesson, I have learned in this last situation towards the end, I realized how could I want someone to create time & space for me to reflect, feel my emotions & express those feelings if I can barely carve out time for myself to even cry. Like girl, BFFR! It’s nothing wrong with taking your time to get through whatever part of life you’re in. Setting that pace and/or being more aligned with God’s timing, also means you’ve got to trust yourself more. I really had to begin to trust the silence I’ve been having to sit in and learning the sometimes hard lessons when I decided to fill that space with noise.
Like yea, sometimes we need the perspective of others to help us come back to planet earth. (ie. girl it’s only been so and so months & you thinking marriage ) Even those moments on the other end of the spectrum, we also have to trust that others know how to set their own paces too.
As someone healing from people pleasing this can be hard so here’s what I’ve tried…
Setting time boundaries: Lately it’s been no phone conversation before 9am or after 10pm. This just helps with some sort of discipline to be able to rest well without overthinking interactions that may have taken place before bed or before I’ve eaten for the day.
Being conscious when a suggestion/deflection doesn’t have anything to do with you: I be quick these days to say “Oh nah, that’s not what’s going on over here”
No need to explain yourself: it’s what’s best for you! Remember that!
No question this week, just something for you to think about when considering your current phase! This is a topic I am still a work in progress on so there will be more to chat about soon! Do me a favor?! Share your favorite part of this week’s edition with someone you like! lol
Sis right here is single handly saving the girls who think they have nothing to wear! Layerednliberte on tiktok posts outfit formulas that are chefs kiss!! Plus she has examples of the outfit formulas that you can save on pinterest! It’s getting warm & no need to let your wardrobe hold you back from having a good time.
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Alright boos! I will talk to y’all next week, deuces!