Summer is Over...Here's What I Learned

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Oct 03, 2023

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Whew we are into the Fall and I thought my schedule would chill with the weather but here we are! I have done so much this summer, unfortunately doing a summer recap might include me telling a bit too much of my business on Beyonce’s internet so instead I thought I’d share some valuable lessons from the summer. But yea, girl we got a lot to cover so…

“Summer of Yes”

At the start of the summer a few of my single homegirls decided to embark on “The Last Summer”! It was a Tiktok I found and shared, essentially the concept was to treat the summer like it was your last summer single, childless or whatever. Ironically, it was a few of our last summer of our 20s as well. Eventually it ended up being my personal “Summer of Yes”, anytime someone asked “Who wants to go” I said YES! BABY talk about a world wind adventure that someday I’ll write a book about when it’s safe. This also was my first summer where my work schedule didn’t drastically change and nor did I need to be at work by 7:30am so IT WAS LIT! Amongst the parties & all the fun, there were 4 major themes and lessons of the summer.

Your routines will keep you sane!
I have come up with a pretty nice morning meditation/journaling routine. Amongst doing all the things this summer I stuck with it most of the time. Boy when I fell off of it for a bit, it definitely left me feeling all over the place. Keeping the routine I realized was grounding for me especially as life seemed to be speeding up was helpful for me. I’ll talk more about the routine next week, I think it’ll help all my girls on the go who need a morning grounding routine.
It is really okay to suck at things or drop the ball
Whew buddy with everything being a little less put together & scheduled this summer, it was inevitable that somethings would be dropped. I really wanted to do tennis but I wasn’t able to fully commit and I wasn’t that great which was kind of discouraging. There were other things that I dropped the ball that just let me know I needed reprioritize things. While there were some things that I dropped the ball that had me thinking like why were you even doing that?! My reframing for this was just to use it as an opportunity to reflect on it & reprioritize. Anything you dropped the ball on that made you go “well why was I even doing that?!”?
Vulnerability is a muscle that you have to keep exercising to strengthen
Being vulnerable is a newer skill I’m working on in therapy and real life. BOYYYYY, the way I’ve been screaming “I’m tired Grandpa”! I realized that this is just my lesson for this season and learning how much vulnerability it takes not only in dating but to also share your dreams & desires with others. I expanded my content this summer, was honest with sharing that I didn’t any career goals in my mid year review and just putting out my ideas in the atmosphere. Doing all of this has helped me a lot, it was very stretching and often left me exhausted but I can tell you I’m getting better at it even when my body tenses up afterwards.
Sometimes being unhinged will push you toward your path
Before the pandemic, I was very rigid I kept a tight schedule and routine. I was still having a good time but this summer would’ve drove that girl nuts! Having a ‘Summer of Yes’ created a very unhinged reality, never did I think I would do things like be out on a Wednesday or agreeing to same day dates. Funny thing is, it made for some really good content, I didn’t lose myself & it actually pushed me towards being my most free self. Which was the goal for the year “Freedom”! So I would say, “We Did It Joe”!

Did any of these lessons resonate with you? What summer lessons did you learn?

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