Stop Guessing So Much
Hey Friends!
I told y’all, I’m going to start just posting over here, so here we go! Also I wrote this at like 1:30AM, the insomnia was real!
It’s a New Year! Happy 2026!
Something about this year so far feels different. I know there’s so much going on in the world, but also outside of that, it just feels different. Towards the end of 2025, I did my normal reflecting & some new reflecting with people who I wouldn’t classify as friends but more as mentors and advisors.
One of those times stuck out to me—it was with someone who I call my Venezuelan Auntie. We met at work in 2022, when I first began at my job. I’m not sure when I first started telling her my business for real, but since that moment, she’s been someone I hold dear.
We sat at her dining room table on Wednesday night as we both were beginning our 2 weeks of time off for the holidays. I’m sharing with her all I’ve been holding back for months because we know the state of the world & I didn’t want to burden her with my troubles. She’s the epitome of a good Christian who’s always willing to pour into others even amid her own suffering.
During that time, she’s throwing scripture, wisdom, personal story & all into the mix. As the oldest daughter, it’s often hard for me to find spaces where I feel like I can learn because I’m often the one who’s being looked to for the wisdom. Being in spaces like at this dining room table is always a space though—maybe uncomfortable (like who wants to hear where we’re maybe falling short)—it’s one that I love!!
After sharing several stories that may have made her cringe & continuously coming up with hypotheticals like I’m Shonda Rhimes writing a hit drama, she goes, “Have you ever stopped guessing?!” lol I was like “oop!”
Honestly, my therapist asked me in a previous session “what would I do if I wasn’t fearful of an outcome.” I told my auntie that I tried it for maybe a week & instantly felt like it was too hard.
Which is so interesting because literally you would think guessing about every type of outcome would be the hard part. Rewiring my brain every other minute to remind myself to stop guessing or to just do what I’m most fearful of was exhausting.
I want to not feel compelled to plan every part of my life this year, letting things unfold naturally (yikes!) so it doesn’t end up feeling like a bad reality show where they overproduce everything. So there won’t be any launches (maybe a soft launch of a hand or something), announcements (maybe one of a back of a head) & things. We’re staying in personal business this year, kinda like a part 2 to such a transformative year that 2025 was. (I need to tell y’all about that, huh?!)
Now since we’re in a New Year, I guess it’s a great time to try this again…
Oh dang, I’m guessing again! 😂
XOXO,
Bria