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11th Edition of But Yea...
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Hey Boo!
Life this summer really kicked into high gear. It took me very much by surprise after a pretty slow first about 6 months of the year. “ Time is flying and on track is a thing of the mind you’re adjusting and whatever track you flowing on right now was designed for your season lol!” A quote from the lovely Dominique Smack hit me like a ton of bricks after saying “time is flying & I can’t keep up”.
But Yea… that took my edges so let’s talk about it!
What I tried…I don’t think I tried anything. This is more like what happens when God is speeding everything up & you’re just trying to hold on to your wig!
A few weeks back I shared my lessons from the summer and as I reflected on the themes of the newsletter for the month, I really wanted to talk about the acceleration of things. Especially because I started this newsletter talking about how slow moving things felt, now I’m like alright let’s slow down!
It’s been not so much about quickly moving life stages or making quick career moves. It’s mainly been that time seems to be moving quickly but yet I feel like I’m having to remember patience while things move slow.
This week’s newsletter was a hard one to write. Mainly it’s because I don’t fully understand what’s happening but in my attempt to keep up with the pace, here’s what I’ve been doing:
Don’t overthink the parts that seem to be moving slower than others!
I often think “What is it like to not be an overthinker?!” Being anxious feels like the parts that don’t seem to be on pace with the rest of life must not be working & something has to be wrong. Not thinking too deep into those things and just allowing them to play out has been a difficult lesson but it’s so essential.
Not allowing myself to autopilot
How many times have you gotten in your car & begin going to the wrong destination?! It might be a deviation from your normal schedule or route & you just go on autopilot instead of remaining present. I learned this in therapy that the same can happen with our thoughts. It’s like our minds compute the issue or action taking place and immediately begins to develop a story/argument/action based on past experiences. When life is moving a mile a minute, it’s so easy to jump into autopilot and not take time to fully make thoughtful decisions. Whew girl did you know that was a sign of self sabotage?! Taking the extra moment with this has helped me to not lose myself or the progress I’ve made while I hold on to my wig.
Still give the effort even when you can’t control the result
Control issues will have you buzzing and having you feeling like exerting effort with no guarantee of a return is a waste of time. As I continue to heal my achiever attitude, I’m learning life is best enjoyed when effort is consistently given. Growing up an overachiever, giving effort was so transactional & warped my perspective on my worth and need for instant gratification. I knew if I tried & studied hard, I would get good grades or if I did my chores I could hang with friends. Unfortunately life isn’t actually like that! It would be in my best interest to be vulnerable in a relationship but there’s no guarantee it’ll get me the life I dream of in that instant. Effort still has to be given for a greater probability. Either way it goes, you’ll be better for it in the end.
God wants joy for us & our job is to find it!
This is a newer lesson for me but once I refused the struggle mindset it helped a lot. I want to expand on this more in a later edition!
I am still learning on this one & can’t wait to share more in the upcoming issues!! Come back for more, cool?! Be sure to subscribe now if you’re new here!
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It was lovely to chat again this week, I am really excited for the upcoming editions so talk soon?! Be sure to send this to someone that can relate & comment below to share if one of these lessons has resonated!