Breaking Up with the How!
6th Edition of But Yea...
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Hey Girrrl!!
A 3-day weekend is always lit but unfortunately it was cold and rainy all weekend! Very not lit actually! I am feeling a bit more back to “normal” but yea…we still have some work to do!
(Dang I forgot we need a theme song y’all)
I must admit my faith is very strong but only in areas of my life that the end result can be visibly seen. Which I guess that isn’t actually faith by definition…welp what a realization!
A big learning process for me has been relinquishing control. (SURPRISE IM A CONTROL FREAK) This new slower pace I have taken on has tested that greatly. Moving slower I discovered that means I have to trust that nothing will miss me. The more challenging part is refraining from asking God “How?”.
I am both creative and strategic thinker so I’m always thinking a new way of getting things done. My brain can conceptualize the what but it will get stuck on the “how” heavy! You can’t really do much of that when working on dating & living life more freely, patience and especially not in burnout recovery.
I realize that’s what bothers me so much about this stage of life, you literally can’t hustle your way through this phase of life. No matter how much I swipe a day, I can’t hustle or grind my way (well…) into a meaningful connection with someone. I can’t force myself to feel fully again (or who I thought I was) nor can I really hustle longterm money into my bank account.
I hear a lot of people talk about “detaching from the how” and I’m trying my best to do just that. Even though it can be a daily challenge, here’s what’s been working for me:
Catching myself before I turn a situation into a catastrophe: Catastrophic thinking be kicking my tail!!
Remaining present in the moment: Music brings me back to the moment especially when I’m by myself. When I’m around other people, like in a meeting; I’ll doodle or if I’m with friends, I take 3 seconds to snap back into what’s happening.
Brain dumping anything that needs to be released from my brain: brain dumping is very underrated!
A good DJ mix or a funny podcast: I will share a few of my favs in this week’s favs or finds!
Here’s a few of my favs when I need to unwind my brain from trying to figure out anything that is out of my control:
Kevonstage’s “I saw this on the internet” podcast - every episode he has a new panel of comics & it is SO HILARIOUS!
“Around the Way Curls” podcast - specifically their Monday episodes are so funny!
“The Friend Zone” podcast- my all time favorite podcast Dustin Ross will have you crying from so much laughter!
“Here’s The Thing” podcast- Kev & Angel are so crazy & are the highlight of my week!
Next week I’ll be on time…I hope! See you then!